Shared bed, will it work for my family?
IN RECENT YEARS, THERE HAS BEEN AN INCREASED USE OF THE SHARED BED METHOD IN THE UNITED STATES. But will it work for my family?
Let’s look at some pros and cons reported by some moms:
- Ease in Breastfeeding (Free Demand at night);
- Mothers can react faster to the baby’s needs.
- Parents who spend all day outside can enjoy this time with their baby;
QUESTIONS: Is a shared bed a bad habit? Certainly not! The bed is shared and a family option, and if the family is happy then it is a great habit;
Is it possible to share a bed and have healthy sleep habits? Yes. A shared bed is just where the baby sleeps, it does not mean that by sleeping in bed he/she can’t have healthy sleep habits;
NOTE: Always follow security measures for a shared bed
- Some parents report that they can’t relax and sleep deeply because they are very alert knowing that their little baby is in bed;
- Babies make a lot of noise and even cry while sleeping. Really? Yes, so if the baby is in bed with the parents, sometimes he/she would go back to sleep alone which is important for the baby’s sleep maturation, but the parents thought that he/she woke up and then they pick him/her up, or breastfeed him/her and the baby does not learn to go back to sleep alone.
- The Parent’s Room will be the baby’s room for a few years.
- Some parents report not having the time to talk, to date;
- Some experts say it is important for the child to develop their individuality, which begins to happen in the room itself.
- With the arrival of the new sibling, will he/she think we have a preference for the new little siblingsince he/she’s going to have to get out of bed for the new baby to sleep with us? Could everyone sleep together in the same bed?
- Babies get used to having company in the bed and the mother needs to go to bed very early, because if the mother gets up from the bed the baby wakes up;
- If one parent drinks, that night he/she should not sleep in the same bed as the baby; What if the two of you drink? It is absolutely necessary for the baby to sleep in the crib;
- When there is no consensus from both parents the shared bed can become a problem for the marriage;
- The American Pediatric Society: It is not recommended for safety, but sharing the room is recommended;
- There is a greater risk of sudden death associated with shared bed use.
CONCLUDING, THE SHARED BED IS NOT FOR EVERYONE. SOME PARENTS ARE NOT ABLE TO COMFORTABLY SLEEP WITH A BABY IN THE BED, AND SOME BABIES ARE EASILY AWAKENED BY NIGHT SPOILS. IN OTHER CASES, PARENTS MAY NOT BE WILLING OR ABLE TO GIVE UP OF THINGS LIKE PILLOWS AND COVERS FOR EXAMPLE, SO THAT THE BED COULD BE TRANSFORMED INTO A SAFE PLACE.
FOR THE BABY TO SLEEP. IN SUCH SITUATIONS PARENTS MAY PREFER TO HAVE THE BABY IN THE CRIB SHARING ONLY THE ROOM, OR ANOTHER ROOM DEPENDING ON THE FACTORS INVOLVED.
And also, what is a con for one family may not be for another. Study and evaluate what will work best for you, enjoy your little baby and this wonderful moment that is coming!